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Why can't I sue my aunt for child abuse


This question has been throttling in my mind the whole day. She ruined my life with all her psychological and physical abuse when I was a child. I wish there was some way a child could sue abusive parents when they grew up, for mistreatment suffered during childhood.

The problem of course is always evidence. The justice system is evidence based. Of course I have the self inflected scars. But that is evidence of self harm not of child abuse. Maybe a renown psychologist appointed by a court could establish without a single doubt the direct cause that lead me to the development of BPD. Maybe it was me losing my father as a baby, or losing my mother as an child, or the constant beating and mistreatment from my aunt that adopted me, or a combination of all those factors. Point is, she is the only one who played an active role in my development of the disorder, and in a fair world should be punished for that to the fullest extent of the law.

In a changed world, I don't remember the last time I heard of a young men, suing his child abuser. This would take enormous energy to establish a guilty verdict and there is a good chance for the opposite outcome.

I heard a great advice on a Youtube video a few months ago, and it was about forgiveness. They said there are 3 stages to it :

Type 1 : Exoneration, is the type of forgiveness you give a person who is truly sorry for a wrong doing, and is sincere in their apology, this is a simple case of forgive and forget. Failing to exonerate a person who is truly sorry reveals a bigger problem on the side of the offended party rather than the other.

Type 2 : Forbearance, is the type of forgiveness you give a person that  is sort of ambiguous in their apology , somehow making excuses for their behavior.  This simply means that you forgive but stay careful around them.

Type 3 : Release, this is the type of forgiveness where you let go of a party that shows no remorse or guilt in perpetrating an offense. This is the type of forgiveness most appropriate for child abuse victims, just let go of the abusive parent break all ties and move on to rebuilding your life.

Although I have since long released my abusive aunt and moved on from the suffered abuse, sometimes things get hard, and memories resurface, with continued work hopefully one day I won't have to feel angry anymore.


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